It was a pleasure to read "Unwanted" by Jay Stringer as it broadened by and, in some ways, reshaped by understanding of sexual addictions. Before reading this book, I viewed sexual addiction as being a behavioral flaw, as something that one could just simply stop through abstinence. However, Stringer (2018) depicted this addiction as a roadmap to unresolved pain and trauma. In other words, as clinicians, rather than treating the addiction as a problem to eliminate, he proposes that we view this addiction as the result of deeper wounds. This approach fosters empathy and compassion for those suffering with a sexual addiction by recognizing that unwanted sexual behavior is often an attempt to soothe unmet needs or past harm. This view emphasizes the one point that the author makes that ultimately challenged my thinking which was that our fantasies and promiscuous behaviors are not random "but meaningful" (Stringer, 2018, p. 19) and encourages the reader to ask why these types of thoughts and why now? I have great appreciation for his curiosity because it is through this compassionate desire to understand his clients that gives space for healing from these damaging behaviors and the shame that accompanies them. This curious response has truly reshaped how I reflect on my own behaviors and those around me. In chapter 12, Jay Stringer defines a soul-tie as something that is "developed when a person holds erotic or shameful power over your soul and body" (Stringer, 2018, p. 160). This sort of connection is something that refers to what scripture describes as being unequally yoked (2 Corinthians 6:14). When sexual connections are rooted in trauma, they can become deeply entangled with a person's identity, turning unhealthy sexual behaviors into compulsions or addictions. Without recognizing the impact of these soul-ties and the behaviors associated with them, a client may struggle to fully understand their experiences or achieve healing. Addressing these dynamics is essential to forming healthy emotional and relational connections. How best would you respond to this discussion post