vocative Responding: Reflections: "Let's look at moments when it gets black for you, when itgets negative, when you're in your head, worrying about the relationship, as in, We're losing orstability, where's our tenderness, what's going on here" (Johnson, 2020, p. 253)? The therapistuses this intervention to invite Mel deeper into the experience of how it feels to not be on stableground with Wendy. The therapist is inviting him to touch on this unmet attachment need,security