Begin the process of applying this chapter’s concepts by taking a self-assessment quiz here or online—where you will find out what the results mean.

Purpose: Evaluate your love styles.

Instructions: Below are 12 statements adapted from an instrument for measuring love styles (Hendrick, Hendrick, Foote, & Slapion-Foote, 1984). After each statement, indicate whether you basically agree or disagree.

1. I believe that love at first sight is possible. Agree ______________________ Disagree ______________________ 2. At the first touch, I know if love is a possibility. Agree ______________________ Disagree ______________________ 3. The best kind of love grows out of a long friendship.

Agree ______________________ Disagree ______________________ 4. Kissing, cuddling, and sex shouldn’t be rushed;

they will happen naturally when love grows. Agree ______________________ Disagree ______________________ 5. Part of the fun of being in love is testing your skill at keeping it going to get what you want from the relationship. Agree ______________________ Disagree ______________________ 6. It is fun to see if I can get somebody to want to date me even if I don’t want to date that person.
Agree ______________________ Disagree ______________________ 7. It’s best to love someone with a similar background.
Agree ______________________ Disagree ______________________ 8. I couldn’t truly love someone I wouldn’t be willing to marry. Agree ______________________ Disagree ______________________ 9. When things aren’t going right in a love relationship, my stomach gets upset. Agree ______________________ Disagree ______________________ 10. When I am in love, I can’t think of anything else.
Agree ______________________ Disagree ______________________ 11. I would rather suffer myself than let somebody I love suffer. Agree ______________________ Disagree ______________________ 12. I would rather break up with someone I love than stand in the way of what she or he needs or wants.
Agree ______________________ Disagree ______________________