Review your responses to the reaction statements in Figure 16. Why do you think you react the way you do? Can you identify something in your history or personality that might drive your response?

What did you identify as possible ways to change your typical reaction? How realistic are these changes for you? What might prevent you from making them?

Figure 16

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1. Feel personally attacked. ("She doesn't like me." "We never got along.") 2. Think the worst. ("I'm going to get fired." "They're going to give this project to someone else.") 3. Blame yourself too harshly. ("I'm terrible at this." "This job is too hard for me.") 4. Blame others. ("Why is this my fault?" "Why isn't he talking to about this?") 5. Accept all the feedback no matter what. ("I don't agree, but she must be right." "This doesn't align with my values, but I'll change anyway.") 6. Argue with the feedback. ("That's not what happened." "She doesn't know the situation.") 7. Shut down. ("If he doesn't like my work, I won't continue on the project." "This is hopeless.") 8. Ignore the feedback. (Too bad if they don't appreciate my work." "I'm not changing.") Never Sometimes Always Never Sometimes Always Never Sometimes Always Never Sometimes Always Never Sometimes Always Never Sometimes Always Never Sometimes Always