Identify three significant messages that you could send to three different important people in your life, including one complaint, one request, and one expression of appreciation. Try to identify important people in different contexts of your life (i.e., family, friends, in the workplace, etc.).Your answer should include the person with whom you want to communicate, their relationship to you, and the general message you would like to send.

Example:I want to tell my mother that I don't like that she hasn't been supportive of my upcoming move to a different state.

Once you know what messages you want to send, write them in the assertive message format. Be sure to include each of the five elements described in your text (behavior, interpretation, feeling, consequence, intention).