In what ways has your self-concept changed over the course of your adolescent and adult life? What parts of your self-concept have remained relatively constant? Explain.

Our self-concept refers to the stable set of ideas we hold about ourselves. These can change through our adolescent and adult life because people are multifaceted and sometimes subjective. The greatest impacts that change our self-concept come from how we are raised and the kinds of people we spend time with. From our earliest of ages, we are confined to what we are told, but through the adolescent stages of life, these tellings begin to transition into our beliefs which we attempt to explain through our understandings as adults. Self-concept really starts to change by the way we relate what we are told to individual understandings. Our life experiences, skills and interest, relationships, and evaluations of ourselves all affect how we transpire through adulthood. However, some things that remained constant over the years were those objective facts or physical attachments like my name, nationality, where I was raised, and my gender.

Of the three types of face needsfellowship face, competence face, autonomy facewhich is the most important to you? Under what circumstances do the others become more important?

Everyone desires a different public image, and why our face needs will vary. These differences comprise what makes everyones identity unique. For me, competence need and being respected for my abilities and intelligence seem to be the most important. I guess for me; this can be explained by making the decision to go back to college in my thirties. Although, I do feel all of these relate in more ways than one. I guess the times when I feel I am respected for my abilities or intelligence the most, I also felt my need not to be imposed on by others, and as a result, others would accept me or like me. For me, the competence face seems to either build or break my self-esteem and confidence, which also defines my autonomy face and fellowship face by how I react.

Can you think of a situation when you have been the recipient of inappropriate self-disclosures? Describe it. How did you feel in that situation? In what ways were the self-disclosures inappropriate?

It is often said that how a person reacts to our disclosure will determine whether the outcome is positive or negative. I was involved with a former manager with whom I remained in contact throughout the years until his going away party, as I always felt we had a good working relationship. I was told some personal information about co-workers and put in a very uncomfortable spot. I honestly dont know why this information was shared with me, I honestly dont know, but it left a bad taste in my mouth for how I viewed him, and it was tough to speak with those co-workers after receiving this information.

Again, this was a very uncomfortable setting even years after, as I had to walk past these people, never knowing if the information I was told was accurate. While I handled the information inappropriately, only continuing the cycle of poor communication, the self-disclosure was inappropriate because it went beyond simply making me uncomfortable and aimed to hurt others with personally damaging information. This was also a violation of other peoples privacy, and another way disclosures can hurt people not participating in the conversation.

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