Interpersonal Communication- Everyday Skills Chapter 8 (Question 5,6 and 7)

5. Using Descriptive Language Aggressive response: I don't care about your pref- erences. I'm not going out tonight. To develop skill in supportive communication, translate the following evaluative statements into descriptive ones. Assertive response: I'd like to go out tomorrow or this weekend, but I have to study tonight. Example: Deferential response: I guess studying isn't really that important. We can go out if you want to. Evaluative: This report is poorly done. a. You think your roommate is angry with you, but you have no idea why, and she or he denied being angry when you stated your perception. But she or he is acting very distant and unfriendly. Descriptive: This report doesn't include relevant background information. Evaluative: You're lazy. Descriptive: Aggressive response Evaluative: I hate the way you dominate conversa- tions with me. Assertive response: Descriptive:. Deferential response: Evaluative: Stop obsessing about the problem. b. One of your close friends asks to borrow your car. Normally, you wouldn't mind lending your car to a friend, but this person has a record of speeding and being careless behind the wheel. You can't afford to have your car wrecked. Descriptive:. Evaluative: You're too involved. Descriptive: - 6. Your Rules for Social Media Aggressive response: To become more aware of your constitutive and regulative rules for communicating on social me- dia, answer the following questions. Assertive response: Deferential response: c. A close friend asks you about something very personal. You want to show that you trust the friend, but you don't want to discuss this topic-even with a close friend. a. How quickly do you expect responses to your text messages? b. How much self-disclosure is appropriate on public pages of network sites? Aggressive response: c. What counts as online support to you? Assertive response d. What counts as rude behavior on social media? Deferential response: 7. Distinguishing Aggressive, Assertive, and Deferential Forms of Communication d. Ten days ago you lent $20 to one of your coworkers with the understanding that the loan would be repaid within a week. The coworker has not repaid the money nor offered any explanation. You need the loan repaid. Listed below are five scenarios that describe a situation and your goal in the situation. For each scenario, write an aggressive, assertive, and def- erential statement expressing your goal. Example Aggressive response Scenario: You need to study for an examination, but your boyfriend/girlfriend really wants to go out for Assertive response Deferential response: dinner and a movie. 244 Chapter 8