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how another person's actions affect you making judgments conflict. Rather than you are telling them about the other person,

STEP I: "I feel $..."$

Make an honest statement about how you are feeling.

for example: "I feel very angry right now."

Statement

how you feel and why. Then, you can what you want or need to happen in th and, if necessary, what you will do in "I" Statement process: STEP $2$ acess:

Tell the $2$: "because $..."$

Tell the person what action or behavior of for your feelings.

for example: "because you did not $p$ missing a good party."

SIEP $3$: "I want or need $..."$

for example: "I need what you want or need from them now or in the future when similar situations an

STEP $4$: "I will $..."$

This step is optional. Hopefully the other person will give you what you need after Step $3.$ H if the problem persists, tell the other person what you are prepared to do in response. $($But threats you aren't prepared to follow through on$.)$

for example: $"$If you're late without calling again, I won't go out with you anymore."

NOW YOU TRY! Turn the following "You" statements into "I" statements using $t$ steps.

"You are so lazy! I get stuck doing all the work around here! Clean up your mess now and me see your dishes in the sink again OR ELSE!"

I feel

$\_$ because

I want $($or need$)$

$($I will

"You are totally untrustworthy for telling my secret!"

I feel because

$r$ want $($or need$)($I will

$--$ u re so loud all the time $-$ why don't you just shut up$!"$

I feel because

I want $($or need$)$

$($I will