Please respond to statement from peer. What is your opinion?

Three person values I have are 1. "treat others how you want to be treated", 2" if you don't have anything nice to say don't say it at all", and 3 "everyone deserves to be happy & in love no matter what their race, gender, sexuality, etc.". My first value may not work well because I have to remember that these individuals and families may have come from places where they were not treated how they wanted to be treated so therefore they probably are angry and hurt. These emotions and experiences may cause them to believe differently. My second value may impact my work with individuals and families because they are in my safe space where as a social worker their feelings will be unloaded on me and they may have not nice things to unload. Lastly my third value I have to keep in mind that not all people have the same views and values as me, everyone is influenced differently and has different beliefs. Being understanding and open to whatever they may believe about others and willing to have that conversation will be a big part in interacting with others. Transference is where a client usually redirects feelings they have for someone else onto you as the therapist. Countertransference is the opposite, this is where you as the therapist direct your feelings for someone else onto the client. If a client is directing feelings for someone else onto you as the therapist I think addressing the situation in an appropriate non confrontational way is important for them to recognize their own feelings and why they're redirecting them. Transference could help a client get out feelings and emotions they may not feel comfortable expressing to the actual person but I think it is something that needs to be addressed and talked about. As a therapist I think to avoid countertransference going to therapy yourself would be beneficial, working on your own feelings and emotions will be helpful for you as a therapist to be more successful in helping others. An example for transference would be my dad looking at me and thinking of my mother because I look identical to my mom who cheated on him. (This is not a true story) An example for countertransference would be him treating me poorly or talking to me meanly because I look like my mom and his thoughts and feelings are back to the infidelity.