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Article 1:

"How Resistance Kills our Flow

When we dont like the circumstances of our lives our natural tendency is to resist or fight them. The irony of this is that when we fight against the things that we dont want or dont like in our lives we tend to perpetuate their existence. It doesnt really make logical sense, but then again nothing about this journey through life seems to until were past our current obstacle. Its only when we look back we can see that many of our biggest problems are the biggest blessings in disguise.

Resistance is a form of friction and it slows your progress.

Resistance

When youre busy fighting the way things are and resisting the circumstances of your life you get caught inside your problems. Instead of moving forward you stay stuck and you kill your flow.

Its something that Ive been experiencing first hand lately. Ive been trapped in a comparative and competitive disadvantage by looking at the stories of other peoples success and wondering why mine isnt one of them yet. If you look at this closely, you can see this line of thinking makes no logical sense either. Beating yourself up for the way things are or for not being the way you want them to be is just another form of resistance.

True progress cant possibly made when youre operating from a place of resistance. Its like attempting to drive a car with the breaks on. Youre going to burn gas, screw up the engine, and stay stuck.

Take Your Foot off the Brake

Our desire to be in complete control of everything is another interesting one. Its the catch-22 on the never ending journey of personal development. You start the journey in order to take control of your life only to realize that the key to taking control is letting go of your desire to control everything. Once you take your foot off the brake however, the car seems to move effortlessly.

When we do the same thing in life we tend to get our groove back, so to speak. But, its easier said than done. While we know logically that theres no sense worrying about the things we cant change, we do it anyways. Its like an annoying add-on feature of the human brain that was intended to serve some useful purpose, but is actually a nuisance more often than not.

So, how do we take our foot off the break? Its simple but not easy. Youve probably heard the saying before that this too shall pass.

Time Heals Wounds

A year from now what matters today probably wont. Five years from now what matters a year from now wont. Ten years from now what matters five years from now probably wont. Part of why we have such a hard time resisting the temptation to dwell on our problems is that we project the problems today into tomorrow and beyond. We think about their impact as if its something that will grow with time. This might be true when it comes to goal setting and momentum, but when it comes to problems, time causes them to lose their power over us. As much as the failures that have led me to where Im at today impacted me, I cant imagine my life without them. Theyve inspired the future that came after them.

When you stop resisting the circumstances of your life, a blank canvas of possibility will open you. The more youre willing to veer off the beaten path, take the scenic route through life, and chase dreams, you get an opportunity to find out what youre really made of and tap into your limitless potential.

Take your shot and see what happens!"

Article 2:

"The Financial Cost of Conflict in Organizations

Almost anyone whos ever worked in a company has witnessed organizational conflicts of some kind and quickly realized that these conflicts damage the work environment. Its clear to all that even relatively minor conflicts are damaging and lead to workplace issues such as office politics, miscommunication, and employee frustration. These minor conflicts also often lead to more significant conflicts, such as poor teamwork, poor decision-making, and undesirable employee turnover, which result in major damage to the workplace. We usually accept these conflictsand the damage that they causeas a given in corporate life. In addition, we usually invest little in trying to prevent these conflicts because we tend to view them as inevitable and assume that the damage that they cause is cosmetic. But what if you could quantify the damage that these conflicts cause to your company in financial terms? And what if you were to determine that conflicts were a very expensive problem? Might that cause you to take them more seriously and invest resources in trying to prevent them? Probablybut only if you were convinced that there was a way to actually to do so. This article will attempt to help you quantify the cost of conflict in your company and help you determine what it is costing you. Quantifiable Symptoms of Conflict Some symptoms of conflict are more difficult to quantify than others, but we can put price tags on just about all of them, albeit with varying degrees of precision. Dan Dana, an American mediator, has come up with a useful way of doing so that forms the basis for the ideas below.* Wasted Time One of the most obvious side-effects of organizational conflict is wasted time. Conflicts devour employee time through a whole host of time-consuming activities beyond merely the time that the conflicting parties invest in the basic conflict itself. There is the time that parties waste on thinking about the conflict, the time they waste (both their own time and the time of others) complaining to anyone who will listensuch as their bosses, colleagues, or subordinatesabout the other party, the time they waste figuring out how to Conflicts devour employee time through a whole host of time-consuming activities beyond merely the time that the conflicting parties invest in the basic conflict itself. Arbinger Properties, LLC subvert the other party, the time that others waste in cleaning up the resultant messes, the time that more senior managers waste in trying to bring the warring parties together, and the list goes on. Since time is money, it shouldnt be too difficult to put a cost on all of this wasted time. Well use a hypothetical conflict in order to illustrate how to calculate it, as well as other costs caused by conflicts. We first need to count the number of people involved in the conflict and then calculate the average monthly cost to the company of these employees (fully-loaded to include not only salary, but all benefits). Next well need to determine how many months (or years) the conflict continued and then estimate the percentage of the employees time that was wasted on the conflict (remembering to include the time wasted on ancillary activities such as those noted in the previous paragraph). With these four pieces of data, we can now easily determine the cost of the conflict. Lets say that six of these employees, who cost $100,000/year on average (including benefits and other employer costs, such as Social Security payments), were involved in a conflict that lasted all year and consumed 10% of their time. If that were the case, this single conflict directly cost the company $60,000 in wasted employee time alone (6 x $100,000 x .10 = $60,000). Lower Return on Investment in Labor However, that lost time actually has a greater impact given that the return on investment in labor is (or at least should be) greater than the cost of labor. Dana estimates that the ROI of labor ranges between 150-500%. Even if we take the lowest end of that range, then the lost ROI on labor caused by the conflict above would be $90,000 (150% x $60,000 = $90,000). Poor Decision-Making Poor decisions are another very costly side effect of organizational conflicts, though more difficult to quantify. That conflicts contribute to poor decision-making is obvious in the event that multiple people sharing decision-making responsibility are in conflict. In such a case, the decision will ultimately be decided based on the balance of power among the conflicting parties and not on an objective evaluation of the companys best interests. However, conflicts contribute to poor decision-making, even if there is only one person making the decision. Thats because the decision-maker must rely on others for information. If the information providers are in conflict with each other and/or with the decision-maker, then the information that they provide will likely be distorted and result in a poor decision. Given the large number of issues faced by decision-makers, the wide variety of potential decisions for each issue, and the virtual impossibility of knowing how a different decision would have altered the outcome, there is no way to reliably calculate the cost of the poor decision-making caused by a conflict. However, it is possible to make an estimate. Dana cites statistics claiming that the average financial impact of a managers decisions equals 75-200% of his or her annual Though difficult to quanitify, the cost of poor decision making as a result of conflict represents major costs to organizational performance . Depending on the nature, scope, and duration, organizational conflicts can and do lead to significant costs including restructuring, employee sabotage or theft, and lost productivity resulting from employee absence or reduced motivation. Arbinger Properties, LLC Arbinger Properties, LLC salary. Well conservatively assume that our sample conflict caused only one of the six employees to make just one terrible decision, costing 75% of that employees annual salary. With these assumptions, the conflict would cost the company $75,000 due to poor decision-making (1 *$100,000 * .75 = $75,000). Employee Attrition Organizational conflicts also invariably lead employees to leave a company. We can quantify this side-effect of a conflict by determining the cost of losing an employee, the number of employees who leave, and the impact of the conflict on the departure of those employees. While there is little question that an employees departure has a significant cost, estimates of how to determine that cost range from 150% - 700% of an employees annual salary. For the purposes of our example, well conservatively use 150% and further assume that only one of the employees involved in the conflict left the company. The cost of losing that employeeassuming that he earns the average annual salary of $100,000 cited abovewould therefore be $150,000 ($100,000 * 1.5 = $150,000). Of course, that employees departure was probably not solely the result of the conflict, so well need to estimate the extent to which the conflict prompted him to leave. In this example well estimate that the conflict was one of five equal factors that prompted this employees departure, meaning that the conflict cost $30,000 in employee attrition (20% * $150,000 = $30,000). Adding it All Together Depending on their nature, scope, and duration, organizational conflicts can and do lead to other significant costs including restructuring, employee sabotage or theft, and lost productivity resulting from employee absence or reduced motivation. Well ignore those costs for the purposes of our hypothetical conflict. Even if we ignore these costs and use the very conservative assumptions above, our sample conflict is still quite costly. Adding up all of the elements above, this single conflict would cost the company $255,000. Our hypothetical company, like most companies, probably suffers from more than just a single conflict. If we were to calculate the costs for all of those conflicts and add them up, wed see that the overall costs are staggering. These costs would certainly be high enough for us to take conflict seriously and decide to invest in combating itif only there were a way to do so effectively. Fortunately, there is a proven method of working that helps prevent conflicts from arising and allows them to be resolved when they do. This is what we do. From labor management disputes on a large scale, to interpersonal conflicts between members of a team, Arbingers unique methodolgy for diagnosising the underlying causes of conflict and our proven ways to transform those conflicts into healthy and productive working relationships has been proven with hundred of clients over the last 35 years."

QUESTION: Some of our conflicts surround resisting something new in our environment. How are you spending the resources of your family when you choose a heart at war? Please be very thorough and use justification for claims.