FIRST: Please read the article entitled: Who Gets Heard and Why.

https://hbr.org/1995/09/the-power-of-talk-who-gets-heard-and-why

According to the article there are numerous styles of talking that each have assumptions behind them and unintended consequences as a result of them.

SECOND: For this post you are to identify one of these six styles you see in yourself frequently.

Here are your choices:

Sharing Credit Acting Modest Asking Questions

Apologizing Giving Feedback Avoiding Verbal Opposition

THIRD: Identify a time that this style yielded the unintended consequence that was mentioned in the article.

Be specific and concise in your example without identifying the names or too much information to protect the identity of others that may be a part of your example.

For example, I might choose "acting modest" to write about and I might post the following which is actually true.

Acting modest is a trap that I fell into for most of my adult life because I did not want to "toot my own horn" and I did not want others to feel that I was acting superior to them. For example, I would hesitate to let others know that I have an advanced degree and am a Professor in higher education.

The unintended consequence that I experienced was that people did not realize that I had valuable expertise that they might have benefited from personally and they were less likely to seek my input on matters that I was capable of addressing.